Please note: This article was published more than one year ago. The facts and conclusions presented may have since changed and may no longer be accurate. And "More information" links may no longer work.
Feelings and emotions on this subject can be really powerful. So, what do you need to think about? A lot of things.
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. Surviving Your Child's Adolescence.
Family of origin issues are a common focus of psychological research and therapeutic work; if a person is having difficulty coping with life as an adult, it is natural to examine the past experiences of that individual to assess whether his or her upbringing or childhood had a hand in causing present-day problems. Prior research has revealed the impact of factors such as physical or verbal abusiveness and parental discord or divorce on the romantic relationships of children as they enter adulthood. This more recent study looked specifically at how the quality of the parent-teenager relationship affects the quality of relationships later in life as well as issues surrounding self-esteem and depression that often set in during the late adolescent years. Data was compiled using information gathered as part of the Add Health Study, which asked teenagers to answer personal questions via in-home interview, self-interview, and computer-assisted interview, beginning in and most recently acquiring data in
We want our children to be emotionally healthy, and a large part of that is developing healthy sexuality. We need to teach our kids more than the basic functions of the body and avoiding disease and unwanted pregnancy. Any two people can have sex.
With the emergence of adolescence comes the emergence of intimate relationships. Intimacy can be a scary word for parents because our mind goes right to physical intimacy, and who wants to think of their child in a relationship like that? Intimacy, however, is also a feeling of emotional connectedness, acceptance, belonging, understanding and friendship.
Romantic relationships are a major developmental milestone. They come with all the other changes going on during adolescence — physical, social and emotional. Romantic relationships can bring lots of emotional ups and downs for your child — and sometimes for the whole family.
The fear of intimacy, also sometimes referred to as intimacy avoidance, is characterized as the fear of sharing a close emotional or physical relationship. People who experience this fear do not usually wish to avoid intimacy, and may even long for closeness, but frequently push others away or even sabotage relationships. Fear of intimacy can stem from several causes, including certain childhood experiences such as a history of abuse or neglect, but many other experiences and factors may contribute to this fear as well. Overcoming this can take time, both to explore and understand the contributing issues, and to practice allowing greater vulnerability.
Some parents have an easy and open channel with their adolescent around all things amorous while others find the subject painfully awkward and try to avoid it altogether. Regardless of where you and your teenager sit on this spectrum, the digital world puts a new spin on some of the timeless challenges of coming of age. Young people have always been curious about sex, and when our teenagers have questions, the internet is usually their first stop, for worse and for better.
From individual families to churches and schools, a debate swings between "too much too soon" or "too little too late. Emory's Jane Fonda Center is working to get past the controversy by building programs that put an emphasis back on the core needs of young people, starting as early as the sixth grade. Becoming sexual is evolutionary, involuntary, and inevitable, says the center's director Melissa Kottke. However, becoming a healthy sexual being is not.